Re: how much moral policing on young people is acceptable?
Today no one needs to take care of the modern girls of Indian nationality any where in the world.I have four Indian Muslim Sons, and all were hooked by Indian girls of very religious backgrounds mind you. Strict parents too, and you will be surprised that my sons, never hide or did anything out of the way till they were sure they wanted to marry the girls of their choice.
There father told them: Dont touch a girl unless you know that you really want to have her as your long life lasting partner my sons.If you are sure , you want her to be your wife, then alone go out with her or tell us and we will approach the family and to the rest.
We sent our sons back home to do their grade IX to grade XII followed by their professional degrees.On the third month itself each one of them told us they were in love with the girl of their choice, I told my sons, it was no problem so long as they got us their degrees and we would gift them the barbie dolls as a reward for their educational stance.
There is nothing like a despicable culture, drinks other than toddy, arack , spirit , sontisour and others which si available even abroad.In plenty.Indian Rum / Whiskey si a big hit in the UAE as well.Toddy is stored at Baraquda in Um Al Quwain too *UAE. Going abroad does not mean one has to not only acquire that culture but those moral values as well etc,. this is wrong, it depends on how the child has been groomed right through.
No need to even dream that the present day girls can be taken back to the days of Sati and Devadasis,or even to believe in a set of values of life that are differnet from those advocated for boys etc., there is no difference between bring up a boy or a girl.
I had to be double careful in bringing up my four sons, much more than bring up a girl today.No jokes, this is why my four sons are gems, and they have never done anything wrong till date a far as we parents are concerned.
They are God fearing, respectful and very decent young men, who have married the girls who of their choice and have children of their loved marriages. Wonderful grandchildren that we treasure and value on same footing of the girl and boy of todays Indian Culture.
They are holding Australian Passports but every bit Indian inside and outside.Its difficult to change once brought up with principles and Indian Values.